What makes a perfect Match?

What makes a perfect match, one most likely to lead to a long-term meaningful relationship? Successful MatchMaking is both a science and an art but if managed properly, the chances of success can be dramatically increased and unnecessary heartache avoided. It is an extremely complex subject, far too detailed to cover here but we have attempted to provide a brief outline of the process, to provide some guidance.

Firstly, there is a whole host of basic criteria which can be used to initially identify who would NOT make a good Match, although you really need to be certain that they are effectively ‘deal breakers’ for you and not just based on some long-standing, perceived need, which you may be now actually be willing to compromise on without any real sacrifice. Examples may include Smoking, Height, and Build, Children being at home, Age and even the distance you are willing to travel to meet. For your sake, be sure you’re not missing out on suitable potential Matches unnecessarily.

You need to establish that your personality types are likely to be suited, ideally using conventional profiling techniques. You also need to ensure you both share the right attributes to ensure you are basically compatible. Examples may include: Background, Occupation status, Education, Interests, Outlook on life, Lifestyle etc etc. Generally, the more similar you are the better.

The deciding factor will be the inexplicable X factor called ‘Chemistry’. Without this, all the other criteria are worthless - but combined with them; you have a firm foundation for success! However, be sure the feelings are not solely based on appearance otherwise you may be making a big mistake and give them chance to develop; love at first sight is rare.

Put simply, the true definition of a successful Match is the best possible compromise between physical attractiveness and compatibility – and you being the same for them!

3 key tips – be Realistic, be willing to Compromise and be the best Match YOU can possibly be! Obviously, you are free to work though the whole process alone or we’ll be happy to help you!

Happy Dating!

Surviving the First Date - and getting a Second!

We thought it may be helpful to list a short selection of essential dating tips that you should follow if you hope to make a great first impression and have a chance of getting a second date!

After arranging your date, don’t keep calling or texting before you meet – save something to talk about and avoid appearing desperate!

Gents make sure you are always early – never keep a lady waiting!

Pay attention to presentation – clean shoes, nails, hair, teeth, clothes etc

Don’t make an instant judgement – let people warm up and relax and you may see them in a different light!

Sincerely compliment your date on something – her hair, his tie, anything – except physical attributes, you’re still comparative strangers, so don’t get too personal at this stage!

Listen at least as much as you speak – be genuinely interested in what your date has to say – a very attractive characteristic.

Be honest – if not, it could spoil things later if you begin a relationship. Reveal your past at a slow rate though; you may reveal some fatal flaws. The process is like peeling the layers off an onion; move too fast and you’ll create tears. Don’t be downbeat about yourself or too arrogant.

Be philosophical and forward-looking – remember, the past doesn’t always equal the future.

Don’t talk about yourself non-stop and don’t boast – a most unattractive characteristic and almost certain to spoil the date.

Don’t be bitter about ex-partners – bitterness is definitely unattractive. Bitter people are the types who make huge, inaccurate and plainly illogical generalisations about how terrible men/women are – it’s sad, it’s boring and it’s wrong, don’t do it!

Things to try to avoid talking about but which usually crop up in conversations – politics, religion and sex. Don’t make sweeping statements or insulting remarks. Try to make your date laugh – but keep the jokes witty – and clean!

Don’t drink too much. If you don’t drink alcohol generally, tonight is not the time to start. Stick to your usual drink. If either of you is driving, don’t drive, be responsible.

Already have the second date in mind when you are on the first. This may appear presumptuous but you don’t want to be caught off guard if the first date overruns and you don’t have a chance to make a second. Your second date should usually be dinner in a nice restaurant for lunch or dinner.

Many more useful tips can be found in our Dating Survival Guide – please ask your TopMatch Consultant for a free copy.

Happy Dating!

Reveal the best You

Whilst our hard-working, dedicated and committed MatchMaking Consultants can introduce you to a prospective partner, whom you feel is perfect for you - how do you get them to feel the same way about you? Ask yourself the question “Would I want to be with me?” It can be an uncomfortable question but if you don’t like the answer, instead of just taking a stance of “you take me how you find me, there are a LOT more positive things you can do! At TopMatch we strongly believe that everyone deserves to enjoy successful long-term, meaningful relationships with someone of the highest possible ‘calibre’ - in every way and with the minimum of compromise. It is for this reason we published the helpful guide: 101 Ways to Attract your Perfect Partner. Please take a moment to download the guide from the link on the Website and discover the steps you can take in your partner search, using both Mental and Physical preparation. Remember, successful relationships are always a two-way street and you owe it to yourself be with the best you can, without settling for less than you have to - but you have to do your bit!

Happy Dating!