Single and loving it! (Not really)

The empowering narrative for singles goes something like this: To be on your own means to be unattached, and to be unattached means to be free. Stefanie Marsh over at the Times Online has taken a shot at debunking this myth. In her own words,

“ . . . there’s a myth being perpetuated that being single is great! The loneliness, the effort, that musty smell in your flat because you spend far too much time in it, the fact that children think you’re weird – that’s all in your mind. A fabrication. You’re not bored, you just think you’re bored because being single is fabulous! There are several million single people living alone in Britain today – everyone’s at it, why not join in the fun? You can drink cocktails like they did in Sex and the City! You can play Nintendo into the dead of night! Absolutely nobody in the world gives a toss about you, but, never mind, you’ve won the lottery of life.”

The rest of the article can be found at http://women.timesonline.co.uk/
and it’s a great read

So, is being single honestly just a quagmire of boredom and anxiety? At times it may seem like it. Of course, another counter-myth explains Commitment (capital “C”) as it’s own gruelling existence wherein people must sacrifice all excitement to the marriage gods. But it can’t be all that bleak, can it?

Single or attached, you can bet on boredom. It’s inevitable. However, outweighing boredom, there’s heaps of fun and meaning to be gleaned from relationships, including the ones we have with ourselves.

If you are looking for love there’s no sense in giving up. A healthy relationship can bring a whole lot of comfort and value to life and doesn’t have to mean a total deprivation of cocktails and late-night Nintendo. In fact, your perfect match just might want in on the midnight gaming, and in my experience, there’s no fun in playing Guitar Hero without a worthy opponent.

Happy Dating!