First Dates that Dazzle

Nothing compares to the excitement and romance of those first dates that really go right. Lively discussion, candid vulnerability, and learning all the things you have in common are the sweetest parts of falling in love, and there’s nothing like a truly great date to help sweep you both away. Here are some first date ideas to inspire sparks:

Make it 1 part original, 1 part traditional. Cliché first dates like dinner and a movie or cocktails and dancing rarely make for the most memorable encounters. Keep it fresh by choosing one activity that specifically suits both of your interests and end on a classic note like dessert at a posh bistro. This will give you a unique experience without sacrificing romance.

Pass on Happy Hour and favourite haunts. Drinking too much is never a turn-on and when the drinks are cheap people tend to overindulge to soothe anxious nerves. Also avoid places where you’re likely to run into friends, as having the home-field advantage will invariably leave your potential partner feeling a little defensive.

Re-imagine the single red rose. Show that you’re grateful for your date’s company by arriving for your date with a little gift. TopMatch Members have the distinct advantage of knowing a bit about their dates before setting out, and may even want to ask their personal Matchmakers for gift ideas. Don’t spend any more money than you would on flowers; instead let the thought determine the value. Fresh handpicked berries, found seashells, or used books are all sweet ideas for different personalities.

Go with the flow. Be ready to make changes along the way. If your picnic gets rained out, just duck into a cosy café for tea. If you miss a movie time, consider window-shopping at nearby stores. As long as the two of you keep a positive attitude, nothing will get in the way of a lovely time.

Give chitchat a chance. You needn’t divulge your deepest hopes and fears straight away, and chances are you won’t feel comfortable in so doing. Instead, ease into disclosure by chatting about the world around you. Planning a date that engenders conversation is easy and will relieve heaps of pressure later on. Consider sketching together in the park, taking your dogs for a trot, visiting a museum, or attending a wine tasting. Leisurely activity and shared hobbies always stimulate amusing conversation.

Don’t force romance. Dream dates rarely have much to do with champagne and ball gowns, so trying to impose a fantastical kind of romance is never a stellar idea. Lasting love begins with honesty and friendship, essential qualities that first date candlelit meals can often impede. Don’t jinx yourself by trying to live out a fantasy, instead opt for daytime dates, more casual attitudes, and plenty of laughter. Sweet nothings have their place, but that will come in good time.

Smile. It’s the simplest thing you can do to ace a first date. Smile genuinely and focus on being kind, not impressive.

Happy Dating!