The REAL Reason Long-Distance Relationships Shouldn't be the First Choice

Perhaps you have heard about a long-distance relationship that led to lifetime bliss? A couple who met online and, after months of falling in love, and against all odds, both made sacrifices to mentally and physically meet in the middle? A lovely thought, but more likely, you’ve heard about something like: the long distance couple who, try as they might, couldn’t ever fully fit into each other's lives and, after months of falling in love, walked away disappointed, hurt, and with a little less time to spend with their real perfect partners (wherever they might be).

Sad as it may seem, more often than not long-distance romances are doomed from the start. It’s not necessarily because people fail to make sacrifices to include the other, but more because of how those sacrifices start to nibble into everyday life. While in live relationships one is able to go through the motions of integrating their relationship with their work, social circle, daily routine, and family, long-distance situations just don’t allow for that kind of growth. Inherently, the relationship is kept separate from regular life, and so in time, the connection is stifled.

Real romance ought to penetrate the commonplace, as well as the soul. Trips to the grocery and last-minute dinner plans are parts of life that simply can’t be spent with an absentee partner. If you have to interrupt your daily routine every time you want to feel some romance, certain parts of your world will invariably receive less attention.

That's not to say long distance relationships can't/don't work, of course they can/do it's just that the odds are reduced. We believe it's best to start local and expand your search if necessary.

TopMatch introduces singles on the local level because we think dating should be a journey, not a hassle. Naturally there are some relationships that overcome all odds, but if you’re serious about finding companionship, why not stack the odds in your favour? Before striking up an intercontinental connection, why not take a closer look at all of the exciting singles in your own backyard?

Happy Dating!