Resolve to Succeed

Amongst goals like getting in shape, volunteering more time to worthy causes, and working even harder, many Britons are vowing to meet their perfect match in 2009. And although we sometimes fail to follow through on our resolutions, smart goal-setters know that a solid plan makes all the difference.

How many times have you resolved to change in some major ways, only to fail a month or two into the New Year? Now count up the amount of times you’ve had an honest plan of action. It’s common to let yourself down when setting lofty goals like finding lasting love or even getting in shape, because, while these dreams seem simple in theory, they are complex and require a sequence of stepping-stones toward success. Three of those essential stepping-stones are:

Write it. Think you’ve got a plan? Then you should have no problem jotting it down. Don’t settle for just a few words; instead, map out the whole year with guiding mini-goals and milestones. Examples are: In February I will go out on a date, no excuses. In June I will read one self-improvement book to help my communication skills.

Enlist help. Like it or not, you can’t do this alone. Whatever your goal may be, enlisting someone who will be of specific help on the issue will ensure you make it one step closer to your goal. In fact, it may be the factor that will make or break your success. Whether you choose a good friend or a real professional, make sure that this person is aware of your needs and is committed to helping the cause.

Rewards. Reward each real victory and renew your resolve every time. After each milestone is accomplished, treat yourself to a massage, night out, or bottle of fine wine. Just don’t pick rewards that compromise your goal, like a chocolate cake if you are trying to lose weight. Most of all, take time to revere the hard work it took to make it so far, this will hope you maintain focus on the rest of your journey.

Happy Dating!