How To Meet Your Perfect Match

How do you meet someone you can trust and are genuinely interested in? And once you find them – how do you increase your chances of making that new relationship a success?


Obviously we are going to say that becoming a member of TopMatch is the best possible start. But even we would have to admit that there’s a little more to it than that.

What About You?

As corny as it sounds – the first step is knowing yourself. You have to be clear on your life and relationship goals.


Only when you have those goals and values clear in your own mind can you look for someone who shares them.


What Does Your Ideal Relationship Look Like?


You also have to establish what you want, and what you need, from a relationship.

What would make you happy?

Is it companionship? Romance? Security? Excitement? Passion?

We’ve known many people who have broken up after a number of months because they realised that they wanted different things.

Sometimes one partner realises that they do not want someone who has children from a previous relationship. Sometimes it has been because their salaries or their careers are too far apart. Things that they did not consider at the outset suddenly become major obstacles to a long-term relationship, but they only realise this after already having invested a great deal of time and energy into it.


So make sure you take the time up front to think about what you are looking for.


Be Honest.

There is generally nothing that upsets people more than dishonesty.


It’s the one sure way to turn a good relationship bad.

We might not always like what people tell us when they are being honest – but we do value it. Sometimes it is not easy to tell someone what we honestly think – but it is almost always better than the alternative.

If you want a relationship to last – indeed if you want to even make it to a second date – honesty is vital.


Face Potential Issues Early On.

If you are starting out in a relationship and you can see potential issues – don’t ignore them. Don’t bury your head and hope that they will go away. And never assume that, over time, you will change your partner’s mind.

If you discover that your partner does not want to have children or that they do not want to retire to Brittany, face up to it as early as you can.

If you don’t, you risk a lot of heartache and a lot of wasted time.

If you do, and if the relationship has genuine potential, you might just find a compromise.

But the longer you leave it, the bigger the issue will become, and the less likely it is that you will find that compromise.

Don’t Get Physical Too Soon.

At the risk of sounding like your father..

I have often had discussions with people who have become too physically involved too quickly – and regretted it.

In some cases the regret was because they enjoyed the physical aspects but they knew deep down that there was no future in the relationship. In some cases the regret was because it made them feel committed before they were ready for that. Sometimes they felt pressured and were not ready for a physical relationship.


So again – trying not to sound like your father.. it’s important to get to know your partner first – this will always be the foundation for your perfect match.

Make sure that you have the same values and goals. And then, if it turns out that the relationship is not the right one for you – you can part amicably and still remain friends.

And if you have indeed found your perfect partner – then it will be worth the wait.

robert burns