The Question That Can Radically Change Your Relationships
What if I told you there’s one simple question you can ask your significant other every day that would completely change your relationship for the better? If you’re relationship is lukewarm at best, asking your significant other this question could add new life and vitality to your relationship.
Just imagine what would happen if you came walking through the door after returning from a tough day at work and after the usual greetings, your significant other asked you this, “Honey, what can I do for you that would make your day?”
Then, once you picked your jaw up off the floor, imagine being able to tell him that one thing that would make your day better – and then seeing him drop everything to do it.
Imagine how incredible it would be to have your significant other call you at the office and ask, “Honey, what can I do for you that would make your day?”
The trouble with this question is that it’s simple to ask, but sometimes following through on the request is difficult. If you ask the question, they could ask you to do that one thing you dread more than anything else. Or they could ask you to do something that’s not very pleasant, it may hurt you, or it might ruin your day to do it. It might cause you to be vulnerable in ways you don’t want to consider.
But imagine how they will feel when you’ve done it. Just today, I asked my spouse this question. She was gentle with me and said, “Oh, I just love it when you take care of the kids so I can take a shower in peace.” So guess what I’m doing tonight? You got it, playing with the kids. Now, not only do I get the joy of playing with the kids, but I also get the joy of knowing that my wife is happy too.
Before you ask, make sure your mind is set on doing whatever they ask, no matter how hard it is for you. Obviously, don’t do anything that goes against your conscience or core beliefs. But, otherwise, it’s a great test to see how willing you are to serve someone else.
One final note: Don’t give the other person a guilt trip for telling you what will make their day. Don’t say, “OK, I’ll do it if you really want me to.” Just do it with a cheerful heart. After all, you asked for it.
Just imagine what would happen if you came walking through the door after returning from a tough day at work and after the usual greetings, your significant other asked you this, “Honey, what can I do for you that would make your day?”
Then, once you picked your jaw up off the floor, imagine being able to tell him that one thing that would make your day better – and then seeing him drop everything to do it.
Imagine how incredible it would be to have your significant other call you at the office and ask, “Honey, what can I do for you that would make your day?”
The trouble with this question is that it’s simple to ask, but sometimes following through on the request is difficult. If you ask the question, they could ask you to do that one thing you dread more than anything else. Or they could ask you to do something that’s not very pleasant, it may hurt you, or it might ruin your day to do it. It might cause you to be vulnerable in ways you don’t want to consider.
But imagine how they will feel when you’ve done it. Just today, I asked my spouse this question. She was gentle with me and said, “Oh, I just love it when you take care of the kids so I can take a shower in peace.” So guess what I’m doing tonight? You got it, playing with the kids. Now, not only do I get the joy of playing with the kids, but I also get the joy of knowing that my wife is happy too.
Before you ask, make sure your mind is set on doing whatever they ask, no matter how hard it is for you. Obviously, don’t do anything that goes against your conscience or core beliefs. But, otherwise, it’s a great test to see how willing you are to serve someone else.
One final note: Don’t give the other person a guilt trip for telling you what will make their day. Don’t say, “OK, I’ll do it if you really want me to.” Just do it with a cheerful heart. After all, you asked for it.
(Steve Kroening is the publisher of http://www.wisdomsedge.com/
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